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Welcome to my Blog. This is a blog for women to help other women understand the intricacies of our relationships with each other and how to over come the obstacles we face today. So please feel free to chime in with your stories, antidotes, questions, issues and solutions! Here every opinion counts!

Janice B

Thursday, November 28, 2013

Putting Your Money Where Your Mouth Is “Blessed”


Am I my Sister’s Keeper
Putting Your Money Where Your Mouth Is
“Blessed”
November 28, 2013

This year I blogged about finding your authentic self and what it would mean for your life.  I shared my journey, my fears, and my joys.  Self-exploration can leave you raw and uncertain.  It is necessary however.  YOU need to know what makes YOU tick.  You need to find out what you are made of so when the hard times hit you will be ready.  In contrast when good times come you will recognize the moment and celebrate it and celebrate you! Yes self-exploration is a good thing!  (wink)
So all of my self-exploration brought me to this point.  I have to admit that I still have a long way to go.  In October I got still.  I had to ask God what it was that He wanted me to do.  You know, now I truly know why people don’t really get still and seek God.  He tells you what you don’t want to hear.  If you stop to think about it, you know what God’s going to tell you before he tells you.  Truly following what God has for you is scary.  You feel that you are not ready for it.  You may even think that you know what’s best for your life and God got it all wrong.  I am here to tell you let go of that fear and go with God.
So like I said I got still.  I prayed, meditated, fasted and even did some Yoga! I heard from God.  It was a simple request but you know me.  I said really God, really! You know what he told me?  He told me to go home meaning Nebraska.  What?!  I said.  I spent the better part of my adult life running from Nebraska as fast as I could.  He said it was time to stop running and my spirit couldn’t agree more. It was time for me to go home, enrich myself in my family and the Midwestern values I grew up with.  It was time to heal old wounds and let the past stay in the past.  It was time to help my family get to the next level while I practiced being authentic to myself!
So after being in Asheville for three months I yet again packed my bags, my household and my dog and set out on yet another journey.  All I had was minimal savings and determination.  My family helped me drive to U-haul truck home and provided me a place to stay.  Within a week and a half I had a job offer and more coming in.  I have rekindled my relationships with my parents and each of my siblings. I get a kick and a joy out of all of my nieces and nephews!  I even went back to my old church family and love every minute of it! I’m even writing better!
When you follow God’s direction for your life everything will fall into place.  It may not be exactly the way you want it but it will be the best way because it’s God’s way!  So today I give thanks to God for allowing me a wonderful Journey, for my family who is always there for me, and my family of friends who always have an encouraging word for me.  Look at what you have this holiday season and give thanks.  Remember to practice being your authentic self and you will be just fine!
Next year’s blog will be all about putting my money where my mouth is. I will be living and being my authentic self. I call myself an author and that’s what I will be.  I am excited about next year and what God has for me and you should be too!  See you in 2014!
Enjoy the Journey!
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Friday, October 4, 2013

Are you happy?

Chronicles of Janice B.
Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville
Are you happy?
                  I read the following quote the other day:
                  “When we forget ourselves in trying to add to the welfare of others, happiness comes to                   us without our asking” Eknath Easwaran
This made me re-think what happiness is to me.  I use to believe happiness was getting my way or if something was going right for me I would be happy.  Or if everything was in alignment and nothing bad happened, I would be happy.  But like the quote above true happiness is in the service of others.  Things can’t make you happy.  People can’t make you happy.  You are the only one that can make you happy and that comes from your ability to get out of yourself and see and help others. 
I did a little experiment the other day and you can try this also.  I woke up and the very first thing out of my mouth was “This is going to be a good day.  Something good is going to happen to me.  I have the Favor of the Lord upon me!” All that day I had a wonderful experience.  Nothing brought me down.  Everyone I spoke to got a happy Janice and in return they responded with happiness and good cheer.  I had favor in the little things like a good parking spot and a hug from a happy customer!  You know I have to admit, I didn’t believe that you could declare that your day would be wonderful and it would actually be wonderful. Now I am a believer.  I now believe that I definitely am the captain of my fate.  What I think about I bring about.  So the next time you are down and depressed change your attitude to the positive.  The next time you experience something bad cancel it out and repeat positive affirmations.  I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of walking around sad and depressed thinking that nothing good is going to happen and that the world owes me.  The world doesn’t owe me anything.  I have everything within me to become successful, prosperous, and happy and so do you.
So from this day forward make a conscious decision to declare happiness.  Spread positivity and watch goodness, happiness, and prosperity follow you all the days of your life.  I know I have made that decision and I haven’t had a bad day yet!
Make sure you spread the word and check out my books at www.janicebrantle.com!
Enjoy the journey!

Monday, September 9, 2013

Chronicles of Janice B. Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville Strongholds


A good definition for stronghold is a major center or area of predominance.  I heard a sermon this past Sunday regarding strongholds.  The pastor distinguished between an environment and a
stronghold.  The pastor stated that you could change your environment, as it is not permanent.  With some tweaks you can create a new environment.  However, as the definition stated, and the pastor agreed that a stronghold is an entirely different beast.   A stronghold is such that an area of predominance something that is not easily broken.  You have to bust out of a stronghold.  You have to escape it as soon as possible.  You have to consult with a higher power to overcome your stronghold.  And you have to do something drastic to get away from particular strongholds.
The pastor told a story about how he actually moved his family out of a poor neighborhood and moved to a more affluent neighborhood because everyone in the old neighborhood had a poverty mentality.  He stated that the mentality of that neighborhood was so detrimental to those that lived there and anyone who would move in there that no one could break that stronghold.  Negativity breeds negativity.  Once negativity gets a deep hold of the person it is hard to shake it
I guess in a sense I did the same as the pastor. I moved from Atlanta to Asheville to break my own personal stronghold of always thinking that I needed a “professional” job and that my passion for writing should only remain a passion. I believed that I could only make money by working jobs that I don’t like i.e. “professional” jobs.  It’s that old fashion mentality that you must get a job, stay there for 30 years and then retire with a gold watch.  The only problem with that is, you’re left empty.  You wondered where your life went and why you let it slip away.
Since moving, I have surrounded myself with like-minded people who are artist, writers, and educators.  They are passionate about their craft.  It is exciting to come alive again.  Just surrounding myself with like-minded people is helping me to grow.  I would suggest that anyone who is struggling with a job they don’t like or dancing around a passion to stop and think if your life would be better with that horrible job or without following your passion.  I assure you that if you don’t follow your true passion and be true to your authentic self you are shortchanging your life.  Here’s a hint, when you are not living your authentic life you WILL be miserable.  You will remain miserable until you get back to you!
Do yourself a favor.  Follow your heart.  Do what you love to do.  You will thank yourself later when you are 80 years old.  No regrets right!?
Enjoy the Journey! 
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Sunday, September 1, 2013

Chronicles of Janice B. Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville Dreams

Chronicles of Janice B.
Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville
Dreams
One of my new favorite quotes is “The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams” Oprah Winfrey.  As all of you know I moved to Asheville to do just that ~ become the great writer that I know is inside of me!!! LOL.  So I have been working on my third novel called Angel’s War.  I am going to provide you with a sneak preview of the novel.  I would like for each of you to read it and provide a detailed analysis (just a fancy way of saying what’s your opinion of the story J) Now it’s a total rough draft so please don’t contact me about grammar errors!  That’s why I pay an editor!  LOL.  Now the first two people who email me back with a detailed opinion ~ meaning more than just “I like the story etc. (you need to at least tell me in a couple of paragraphs why you like it or why you don’t like it) will get a free copy of one of my other books.  So here goes:
Angel’s War
Prolog
                  “You fucking cu..”. The Bishop yelled slowly rising from his massive desk.
                  “My my my, choice words for a Bishop.”
                  “You think you can ruin me?  Huh you little bitch!”
                  “You have a stellar vocabulary.  I see your fancy college education is paying off. If your congregation could see you now.” The Bishop was fully erect now.  He reached under his desk and pulled out a silver plated nine millimeter, placing it on top of the desk.  He had all sorts of thoughts running through his mind.  He just couldn’t go out like this.  He’s been on top far to long to let some little smartass bitch take him down like he was nothing. Blinding rage clouded his vision.  He gripped his gun harder.  His hearing was muffled.  The last thing he heard was,
                  “Great now the big bad Bishop needs to hide behind a gun?  What you gonna do shoot me?  Go ahead shoot me.  You fucking coward….BANG.  The gun went off, the smoke cleared…
Chapter 1
                  “Help me!” Jamelah better known as Angel screamed as she woke up from her fitful nap.  Thank God no one noticed as usual, the church was in a frenzy from some bullshit sermon the Bishop was preaching. Angel couldn’t shake the dream she just had. It was creepy she thought. Still fuzzy, all she could remember was some dark figure surrounding her taunting, “so you think you’re the chosen one.”  It felt so real but I’m in church she thought.  Aren’t demons afraid of church? She asked herself. All though her father was the bishop she tried not to get too much into religion.  Religion was a farce.
                  Angel closed her eyes trying to go back to sleep desperately trying to drown out her father’s sermon.  Although, fiery, she just couldn’t take hearing him anymore.  She had no respect for the man who proclaimed he was appointed by God to save this heathen world.  She saw her father commit some despicable acts growing up including bribing the registrar’s office to get her into school. Angel intentionally got expelled.               
That’s my dad the great Bishop EL Tate, Angel thought sitting in the first pew at Greater Missionary Vision church. The E L stands for Edward Lawrence but for some reason the Bishop always says E.L. as if it gives him greater importance. “He’s going to hell.”  Angel whispered to herself as she slumps down into her seat wishing she could disappear. She hated this church and hated her father even more.
                  At the age of nineteen Angel was a self-proclaimed atheist.  She hated everything about organized religion.  She felt that Greater Missionary Baptist was no more than a well ran mob and her father the biggest gangster in the South. 
The church was the biggest mega church in the southeast.  It owned banks.  It developed housing communities. It owned several grocery stores and the church was embarking on their biggest venture yet, a multimillion dollar shopping mall outside the city of Atlanta.
                  “Call me Poppa”, still rings in her ears.  She was dropped off on his doorstep at the tender age of two when the first lady’s armor bearer realized the “Great Bishop E.L. Tate” was not under any circumstances going to leave his wife for her. Some way he got rid of her but wanted to keep his flesh and blood near him.  The rumor is he killed her.  She was never seen again. He didn’t do it with his own hands because of course the “Great E. L. Tate couldn’t have blood on them.  He instructed his right hand man to do it.  All his dirty works goes through him and I am sure he was all too happy to oblige in this situation.
                  His right hand man was Gregory Hobbs, Belinda Hobbs’ husband.  Belinda was my slut of a mother who thought she could seduce my dad away from Momma Sessilee of course I couldn’t just call her momma.  That would have been too painful for her especially since she couldn’t have children of her own.  I was a constant reminder of her husband’s indiscretion and her bareness.  I could see her hatred of me in her eyes.  I can’t blame her though.  Her husband trying to pass me off has her child, while everyone in the church knew I was a bastard and she so desperately trying to give him an heir to the so called Tate religious empire. 
                  Momma Sessilee basically bought my father. Momma Sessilee’s family is the richest family in our community and the most gangster.  Her father the honorable Bishop Telfalgar ran the city of Athens.  He had the biggest Baptist church in the area.  His church had 8 thousand members.  That was unheard of in that area especially with a population of 86 thousand people.  He was the man in the area.  Whatever he said went.  Every politician was at his beck and call.  They knew without his endorsement they were nothing and without his say nothing would get accomplished.
                  With all his power and influence Bishop Telfalgar was very unhappy.  His wife was unable to give him an heir. After ten years of marriage she was only able to produce a simple minded daughter, Sessilee.  He loved his daughter so much but she was dumb as a box of rocks.  All he could ever hope for was she married well.  He wanted her to marry a strong man of god someone he could trust to take over his empire and expand it. 
He prayed for that day and night.  As soon as she graduated from high school he sent her to Atlanta to Spellman in hopes of meeting a good man. Not just any man a Morehouse man.  One who was trained and equipped to be leaders and pillar’s of the community. 
 They both were happy she brought daddy home. But really looking at it I think my Dad got the better end of the deal.  He was a skinny black boy from Alabama.  He came to the big city in hopes of making it big.  His dusty little church in Muscle Shoals, AL wasn’t enough for him.  He had mega church dreams.  Sessilee was the first person he met fresh off the bus.  He was a Morehouse man.  Sessilee was a Spellman girl.  They were inseparable from their freshman year that is after Sessilee brought the daddy to her father’s church and then to their home for dinner.
The good bishop saw the extravagance of their home.  It was a 3 story brick Tudor home secluded off an expansive lake. The house was patterned after Queen Elizabeth herself.  It was nestled in a thicket of trees as if it had its very own forest. No one could see it from the road.  It was a mini castle nestled all by itself and Jack Trefalgar was the king.
When you stepped through the door you were in a grand foyer bejeweled with gold trim and rich opulent red high back queen Ann chairs.  What got the bishop was the butler.  When he opened that door for the first time, and announced him, the bishop was astounded. All the bishop had to see was the wealth and he was hooked.  I don’t even think he liked Sessilee all that much.  He was hungry for the fame and fortune.  Grandpa Jack, Sessilee’s father was a well-respected pastor at that time.  His ministry just went televised.  He had more church investments and holdings than any other church in the tri-state area.  He was looked at as one of the first televangelist pioneers.
The story goes Grandpa Jack took an instant liking to Daddy.  He said he reminded him of himself when he was younger.  He said Daddy had that eye of the tiger look and Grandpa Jack knew instantly that he would take care of Momma Sessilee and the family business.  He was worried about that because he knew his child well.  She was beautiful but a simpleton.  She would never be able to run his empire.  They couldn’t have any more children so his only hope was for Sessilee to marry well. 
They had a world win courtship.  It was more like negotiated merger. After daddy’s third year in college, Grandpa Jack called him to the mansion for a discussion without Momma Sessilee.
“Edward, I called you here today because I want to discuss a very important matter.  Bishop Talfalger said.  He was sitting in his expansive office.  He chair to his massive King Henry desk looked as if he was sitting on a thrown.  He had this hard stare in his black beady eyes.  He was a large man.  He hands were the size of basketballs.  He was 6’6”, dark as tar with a full beard, and had a large scar over his left eye.  He claims he got the scar in a gang fight.  He states that fight almost cost him his life. He prayed that night in the hospital that if God spared his life he would forever be his servant.  Thirty years later he was still serving the lord with as much gusto as he had the day he left that hospital with his life.
“What’s on your mind Bishop?” Daddy replied. He was anxious.  He wanted the Bishop to mentor him.  He wanted so badly to be the heir of this empire. He worked so hard for the church.  Every time he could he was there when the doors opened and was the last one to leave.  He would come up on weekends just to help clean the church.  He started the college version of this ministry and became quite the charismatic minister.  He felt that he needed all the practice he could get.  He felt that he would be leading this great empire soon.  He even courted the Bishops’ daughter showering her with romance and love even though he was not in love with her.  He needed a woman with a little more sass, class and intelligence. Sessilee was beautiful but an airhead. He figured she was a means to an end.  He felt that she was his golden ticket.
“Ump.” The pastor cleared his throat. “You know I’m getting old and I can’t do the things I use to.  I’ve seen my ending.”
“No Bishop. Don’t talk like that.  You have many years left in you.” Edward said.
The Bishop raised his hands to halt Daddy from speaking. “I know when it’s my time.  The lord and I have a deep connection.  He’s told me to start grooming my predecessor.  I prayed and he led me to you.  I said Lord thank you because you would be an excellent successor.  I feel you care about this ministry and what it stands for as much if not more than I do.  And I’ve never seen a man treat my daughter with as much love and respect before.  That warms my heart. So I want you to take over my church.  I feel that you will take this ministry to the next level and bring us safely and godly into the new millennium.”
“Well Bishop I’m speechless, honored but speechless.” He stammered out knowing he wanted to shout for joy.  This was the moment he waited for all of his life.  “I’m not sure I can fill your shoes. I, I …”
“Son, I have faith in you.  God has faith in you.  I will take you under my wings as soon as you graduate your mentorship will start.  The only stipulation I have is that you marry my daughter and you love her and respect her till the day she dies. She is my pride you know.”
“I know. She’s my heart.  I can’t do any of this without her.” He said thinking silently how he could possibly get out of marriage but not coming up with any immediate solutions.  But that was a problem for another day.  Today he thought I am on top of the world.  He was going to make this the biggest ministry in the world.
Chapter 2
With the clash of the drums Angel was brought back to the present, Sunday mornings at Greater Missionary Baptist Church.  The drummer, Jeremiah at the end of a heated score would always end by pointing he left drumstick at Angel as if to say that one was for you. Angel was secretly in love with him; however she hated the fact that they called him Jesus Kid.  He lived and breathed the Holy Ghost and she believed wouldn’t be caught dead with a self proclaimed atheist. But to her surprise he always acknowledged her.  They had brunch every Sunday. Jeremiah was Gregory Hobbs’s son.  No one really knew where he came from.  About seven years ago, he showed up at church with ten year old Gregory.  He never gave an explanation and Daddy never asked for one.  It was as if he granted automatic acceptance as if they were now in the same fraternal order.
Brunch with Jeremiah became special to Angel.  He shared with her his God.  His God was loving and kind.  His God believed all people were good and loved them unconditionally.  People didn’t have to earn love unlike her household.  If she was a perfect Angel, Momma Sessilee would shower her with love.  If she didn’t do things quite her way she would be severely punished.  She got punished more then she got showered with love. In the beginning Angel tried hard to please Momma Sessilee but now she hated her and didn’t give a damn what she did or said.  Now that she was older and could fight back, Momma Sessilee just tried to stay out of her way.  Angel was just fine with that. 
Jeremiah tried his best to do what his Dad and Bishop Tate wanted.  They wanted him to persuade Angel into accepting the Lord and get saved. He couldn’t understand.  He liked Angel the way she was.  She was just misguided.
“Angel now that you’re not in school, what are your plans?” Jeremiah asked over bacon pancakes and a cheese omelet.
“Jer, you sound like my Daddy.” Angel replied over a bite of her own bacon pancakes they shared at the Original Pancake House.
“No seriously. I want to know.  I could use you, you know.”
“Use me how?”
“As the co youth minster.”
“You know I ain’t into that shit” Angel replied harshly.
“Must you use that language?” Jeremiah said softly as to defuse the situation.  He didn’t want to upset Angel.  She could go into a horrible rant about the evils of the so called Christian society and the poor state of the black church today.  He didn’t want to hear that. He just wanted to spend time with the girl he fell in love with.
“Hey if you want to help me, teach me to play the drums.” Angel replied she wanted to ease the hurt she just caused him so easily seen in his deep-set serious brown eyes.
“Drums” He said slowly lifting his head meeting her gaze.  He was trying to buy some time.  He was old fashioned like his father.  He didn’t believe a woman should play the drums. But if he teaches her he could spend more time with her.  He could keep her safe and near him.  Ever since he first laid eyes on her he felt this instinctive urge to keep her safe.
A smile slowly crossed his face as he realized that he could keep his promise to Bishop and his dad and spend time with Angel. “I would love to under two conditions. One we practice at the church and two, you have to become the co-drummer with me on Sundays.
Angel wrinkled her brow ready to protest but she knew Jeremiah.  He was as stubborn as a mule.  He wouldn’t budge on this one and besides church wasn’t so bad when no one was there.  She kind of liked it.  It was serene for her.  She felt comfortable, like she was at home or meant to be there. “Ok. No problem.  When do we start?” She replied cheerfully.
“Immediately.” Jeremiah said with a smile.

Sunday, August 25, 2013

Chronicles of Janice B. Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville


Change
Ok I have a confession to make.  This week I freaked out and all hell broke loose!  I was like OMG what the hell did I just do?  I moved to a place I know no one, I had some serious financial challenges, and the job hunt was going a little slow! I must admit doubt and fear crept in.  So what’s a girl to do?  Pray of course.  Ah yeah that didn’t work!  I still felt lost, scared, and confused.  I was like if this was the right move for me, why are all these bad things happening and happening all at once.
After seriously panicking one night all night, the next day I got up the courage to call one of my close friends, who happens to have a very good spiritual eye. She said and I quote “Janice, that’s just the devil trying to block your blessing.  With all these things coming at you, you must have a mighty blessing coming your way.  Must be some kind of windfall!!  And she laughs.  Then she said now go play the lottery and when you win big remember little ol me!”  Then I laughed.  She was right when you are on the right track for your life, all hell will break loose!  Things will come at you that you wondered where the hell did that come from! So I thank God for my spiritual sisters out there!!!
Now the funny thing is, when you get real spiritual advice God has a way of confirming what you heard was right and of him.  So this morning when I was doing my morning devotions I came across this passage:
Change:  The old spiritual reminds us, “Nobody told me that the road would be easy…” and it’s not! It is not easy to shift out of what we do and how we do it.  It is not easy to shift our views in order to see new things in place of the old.  It is often confusing and frightening to make a shift away from the familiar in order to embrace the unknown.  Yet it is a necessary labor we must undertake in order to grow.  No matter how difficult, challenging, or hard it may seem, shifts are necessary when the time comes to free ourselves from the confinement of mental, emotional, or physical boxes.
All shifts create a vibration which in turn affects everything around it… Sometimes, in fear of the effects our changes will create, we delay making a much-needed shift in our minds and behaviors.  As a result, our lives and everything around us remain stuck.  When the time comes to move, we must move.  The longer we fight against it, the harder and more painful the movement becomes.” Iyanla Vanzant
So it was confirmed that no I’m not crazy for making such a drastic change to my life.  It was just time for me to shift gears.  It was time for me to start living my life that was authentically me.  And come to think about it I made that decision years ago while in high school to never follow the road well traveled but to follow the road less taken.  So I leave you with one of my favorite poems by Robert Frost:
Robert Frost (1874–1963)

The Road Not Taken



TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
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Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,


And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.


I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.



Until next time!!!! 
Enjoy the Journey
(Please feel free to check out my awesome novels: From the Brink of Insanity Comes the Light and The Forgotten A Love Story!)

Friday, August 16, 2013

Chronicles of Janice B. Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville



Shazam! I am in the land of the Birkenstocks, tied-died tunics, incense and 70’s music! So you may be asking yourself what’s a big city girl well maybe I should say semi big city girl going to do in this strange land! Yes strange indeed.  I feel like I have been transported to another planet. Me no understand, slow moving, meditation, relaxation, friendliness, and everybody speaking to me!  (Side note: people bring their dogs everywhere here! I even saw this lady bring her dog inside White House/Black Market boutique! I couldn’t believe it as that is an upscale boutique! I think Sasha is going to love it here!) This land is strange indeed! However, I am forging on and I will conquer this strange terrain. 
My goal and purpose for uprooting and coming to Asheville, was to practice what I preached:  get still, get centered and find out who you are.  So I had to tap into those powerful words.  I was tired of talking the talk but not walking the walk.  I was also tired of being who everyone else thought I should be.  I would cringe at the thought that my father didn’t approve of what I did with my life.  I felt an obligation to my younger siblings show prosperity.  In my family prosperity looks like this: Big house, 2.5 children, a job that you stay at for 20 years, and marriage.  I have none of that!!! So I had to ask myself is this my truth?  Have I been happy striving for this euclid prosperity?  My answer was a resounding NO! I had to be true to Janice.  My truth is I am a woman of words and I have to strive to make a living using my words.  In order to do that I have to come to terms that I may never be what my father wants me to be.  I have to come to terms with me and love me for who and what God made me to be.
I’ve come to learn that the most important relationship I have right now is the relationship I have with myself.  I once read that you have to love yourself including the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between because you can never get away from yourself.  Part of this process is getting still and meditating. Going inward helps you become not only in tune with yourself but with a higher power.  A deeper spiritual connection helps you become free.  When I started out on this journey to discover who I was and what I wanted out of life, I never knew where I was going to end up.  I know that my journey is so far from over.  But so far I’ve discovered that I like a slow pace.  I like that I can pause and think in the middle of a cafĂ© and no one is pretentious, posturing, trying to see or become the next great celebrity. I think I’m going to like this strange and interesting land!! So I want to leave you with this:
“The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working.  To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds.” William James.
With that, I encourage you to see your insane world differently or pack up and move to a place that you know you will absolutely love even if it’s only in your mind! J
Until next time!!!! 
Enjoy the Journey
(Please feel free to check out my awesome novels: From the Brink of Insanity Comes the Light and The Forgotten A Love Story!)

Monday, August 12, 2013

Chronicles of Janice B. Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville


Chronicles of Janice B.
Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville

Oprah Winfrey said “The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.” Well I took that to heart! I did it! I packed myself the wonder dog - Sasha up and moved to the “A” – Asheville, NC that is.  We are off on a new and exciting journey. Just moving was an adventure in itself!  You know when you are on the right path for your life the forces of darkness try to stop you at all cost! The first thing that happened that led me to believe I was heading in the right direction, although at the time I thought it was an omen, my apartment got rented to someone else. I couldn’t believe it.  See I am very proactive.  I called a week a head to make sure everything was ok and good to go.  I rented the apartment in February. The conversation went a little something live this:
Ring.
“Hawthorne at Northside”
“Oh I think I have the wrong number” I said because my complex was named Colonial Village.  So I check the phone number again. Ring
“Hawthorne at Northside” the person said again.  I panic and hang up the phone.  With fear gripping my hart, I tried looking up the management company’s name.  I found an “800” and called.  A recording came on “You’ve reached the main office, please contact the property direct…” 
“Ugh” So I ended up calling back and telling the person that I hung up on twice what I was looking for. They said that the property was being taking over by new management and that they had me in the system to move on 08/14.  Great, however, about 30 days ago, I called and was told that I could move on 8/03. “Well that apartment has been rented” came the nonchalant reply. So tell me what’s a girl to do?!  CRY!!!!!!!!!  I totally freaked out.  I was like oh my God what am I going to do.  I just quit my job all deposits were paid, the truck has been rented, and people were in place to help load. The person on the other end assured me that they would be able to help me and someone would be contacting within the hour, as I was boo hoo’ing uncontrollably on the phone.  I waited an hour but no one ever called!
After calling the apartment complex several times to no avail, I just didn’t know what to do.  I would like to say I handled this situation with my normal take-charge personality but I didn’t.  I went home, cracked open a bottle of wine, and pulled the covers over my head thoroughly convinced I made the biggest mistake of my life!  But then one of my friends called.  She encouraged me to contact the district managers and or go over the district managers heads if need be.  So I mustard up some courage from deep within and called the district manager demanding action or my deposit back within 48 hours so I could locate another apartment.  I then researched and found the names, addresses and email addresses of the executive board.  The Internet is a beautiful thing!  As I was drafting my tell all, email to the executive board making my demands, the district manager called me back stating that all was ok and I could move on 08/03. This convinced me that prayer and action works!
As planned my friends came loaded me up in Atlanta without a hitch! So we were off driving down the interstate and Sasha started to get suspicious.  She realized that this wasn’t our usual short drive to the doggy park.  She panicked and tried to jump out of the window while we were on the highway doing 70 MPH!  I have never been so frightened in my life! We were heading up the mountain so I couldn’t stop.  The very first chance I got I pulled off the highway and let Sasha out.  She used the bathroom and off we went again.  She continued to freak out but I refused to open the window until we got to our destination.  Because she tried to jump out the window, I believe to try to trek back to Atlanta (Atlanta or Bust – must have been her mantra), she will be forever known as Sasha the wonder dog – meaning I wonder what the hell that dog is thinking!
The next thing that happened was a little mishap with the movers in Asheville.  THEY DIDN’T SHOW UP!!!!!!! Again I panicked.  OMG what am I going to do.  I called my Mom and she told me to relax, get some rest, and call someone in the morning.  So not what I wanted to hear at the time.  I wanted something done and I wanted it done now – what that something was I had no clue.  It was 5 PM on Saturday so it was too late to do anything anyway.  But I still wanted justice!  However I took my mother’s advice.  I showered, ate, cracked open a bottle of wine, laid on my mattresses that were on the floor (my bed was in pieces), pulled the covers over my head, and cried! (see a pattern here J)
I shall not be defeated!  I got up early the next day not because I wanted to get up early but Sasha the wonder dog had to go potty! But non-the less I got up with a renewed spirit. I pulled up a list of people to call to possibly find movers and to see if someone could come out that day!  Lo and behold, I was able to find someone to come out on a Sunday.  I called at 9:30 AM.  They got there at 11:00 AM. They were done by 1:00 PM and by 1:30 PM Sasha and I were off to find the dog park! Again, prayer and action works!
I think that’s enough for now.  More things happened but I don’t want to scare ya!  You guys get the picture!  When you are following the destiny that God has for you, the enemy will attack you but rest assured, the plan has already been laid out.  You have the victory!  So here’s some morsels that I’ve learned along the way thus far:
1.     Tears solve nothing – (Always add wine with your tears to get better results! - just kidding!)
2.     What a difference a day makes – Sleep on it the sun always comes out tomorrow sprinkled with joy!
3.     God sends Angels to help you along the way
4.     I’m resilient and so are you!
 I would love to give a shout out the all the wonderful Angels that helped me in Atlanta: Mel G, Shanna G & A, GB, B-Payne and Joshua C.  Thanks so much for your help, love and support!  You guys Rock!  Also, my Angel in Asheville: Mike G!  You’re my hero!
Until next time! 
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Monday, May 27, 2013

Truths


Am I My Sister’s Keeper
Journey to your Authentic Self
Truths
May 27, 2013
If you want truth you have to give truth.  I find myself demanding truths from the people around me but if I really analyze myself I really don’t give my truth. People always tell me how strong and decisive I am.  They feel that I have it all figured out, life that is.  But if I take an honest look at myself I would admit that is the persona I portray.  I portray this strong Black woman who has it all together, who doesn’t need anything or anyone. Not!!!  This is so not true.  I need connections.  I need strong relationships.  I need people around me that will help me stay honest, who I can unburden with and who can help me through hard times and vice versa.

 Think about it Black women, what is your persona?  What parts of you do you let others see?  I know we all do it.  We all hide our truth.   

My take on the situation is this:  We as Black women have to wear so many hats that it just becomes easier to just keep one hat on to show the world.  We hide behind the professional woman hat.  That’s the hat our parents want us to wear to show off to their friends how well the raised us.  We keep this hat on even though we would rather be a dancer, a poet, or an author perhaps.  All of which are not as prestigious as the CEO of a major corporation or an entrepreneur.

I think we do this because we are afraid.  We are afraid that others will not accept our real authentic self.  We feel that we have to be everything to everyone. We have to be the professional productive citizen for our parents.  We have to be the perfect role model and parent to our children.  We have to be the perfect woman to our men so they won’t stray.  We have all of these entities hovering over us, smothering us that we loose ourselves in translation. 

It’s time to be real with ourselves and others.  Show the real you.  The real you is interesting, funny, classy, happy and fun.  Showing your real self will allow you to be happier and more authentic.  I know that is my goal, to show my truth, speak my truth and to be my authentic self.
So the next time I look stressed but the words coming out of my mouth is everything is fine.  Stop me.  Ask me what is really going on. If we hold each other accountable we will all become better people.


By Janice Brantle: Author of "From the Brink of Insanity Comes the Light" &  "The Forgotten ~ A Love Story"
www.poetryinmotionII.com