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Janice B

Friday, August 16, 2013

Chronicles of Janice B. Life from the “A” – No the Other “A” – Asheville



Shazam! I am in the land of the Birkenstocks, tied-died tunics, incense and 70’s music! So you may be asking yourself what’s a big city girl well maybe I should say semi big city girl going to do in this strange land! Yes strange indeed.  I feel like I have been transported to another planet. Me no understand, slow moving, meditation, relaxation, friendliness, and everybody speaking to me!  (Side note: people bring their dogs everywhere here! I even saw this lady bring her dog inside White House/Black Market boutique! I couldn’t believe it as that is an upscale boutique! I think Sasha is going to love it here!) This land is strange indeed! However, I am forging on and I will conquer this strange terrain. 
My goal and purpose for uprooting and coming to Asheville, was to practice what I preached:  get still, get centered and find out who you are.  So I had to tap into those powerful words.  I was tired of talking the talk but not walking the walk.  I was also tired of being who everyone else thought I should be.  I would cringe at the thought that my father didn’t approve of what I did with my life.  I felt an obligation to my younger siblings show prosperity.  In my family prosperity looks like this: Big house, 2.5 children, a job that you stay at for 20 years, and marriage.  I have none of that!!! So I had to ask myself is this my truth?  Have I been happy striving for this euclid prosperity?  My answer was a resounding NO! I had to be true to Janice.  My truth is I am a woman of words and I have to strive to make a living using my words.  In order to do that I have to come to terms that I may never be what my father wants me to be.  I have to come to terms with me and love me for who and what God made me to be.
I’ve come to learn that the most important relationship I have right now is the relationship I have with myself.  I once read that you have to love yourself including the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between because you can never get away from yourself.  Part of this process is getting still and meditating. Going inward helps you become not only in tune with yourself but with a higher power.  A deeper spiritual connection helps you become free.  When I started out on this journey to discover who I was and what I wanted out of life, I never knew where I was going to end up.  I know that my journey is so far from over.  But so far I’ve discovered that I like a slow pace.  I like that I can pause and think in the middle of a café and no one is pretentious, posturing, trying to see or become the next great celebrity. I think I’m going to like this strange and interesting land!! So I want to leave you with this:
“The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working.  To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds.” William James.
With that, I encourage you to see your insane world differently or pack up and move to a place that you know you will absolutely love even if it’s only in your mind! J
Until next time!!!! 
Enjoy the Journey
(Please feel free to check out my awesome novels: From the Brink of Insanity Comes the Light and The Forgotten A Love Story!)

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