Am I My Sister’s Keeper November, 2012 What’s going on…Black Female and Black Male Relationship

Am I My Sister’s Keeper

November, 2012

What’s going on…

Conversation Series-State of the Back Community

Black Female and Black Male Relationship

                  Ok so I am giving you two blogs in one.  I know.  I have been so blessfully busy that I am excited! I am excited about my writing career, the people that I am connecting with, and just being able to share tidbits of information with all of you.  So as I stated in my earlier blog (that I just posted moments before this one J )I’m starting a conversation series on “The State of the Black Community” all a brainchild stemming from my latest book The Forgotten A Love Story and the book signing. It is a candid conversation about relationships, love, community and such! The first session is set for this November 10, 2012.  More information to come at the end of this blog.

                  Anyway I asked my self what is love?  How do you know what love is?  Can you recognize it when you see it or feel it?  You ask do I just randomly sit around the house and think of these things.  Heck no!  I had an outside stimulus.  I know what you’re thinking and no it wasn’t a man this time! However indirectly I guess it was.  I was reading the book “Loving Donovan” by Bernice L. McFadden.  I read the following passage:

“Three years had come and gone, and since then Campbell had married a wonderful man from Kentucky, given birth to a son, moved to another part of the state, taken up pottery and yoga, leased a Mercedes, and purchased a beach house in Anguilla; her daughter, Macon, had made her a grandmother, and even with all of those life changes, her heart remained the same.  Her heart remained with him.

She wished she could say that she thought of Donovan only when she heard Etta James belt out “At Last,” or in the dead of the night, midsummer, when it rained or snowed, or when the sun shone so brightly, it made the day too beautiful to behold.

                  He had been beautiful.

                  She wished she could say that her mind reached back to those times only when life was unbalanced and sad, but that would be an outright lie because she thought about that man even when she was happy and wrapped tight in her husband’s arms.”

After reading that I said damn now that’s love.  But I got to thinking about it, is it really?  Is it just infatuation?  I started questioning myself wondering if I knew what love is.  I thought love was that ooey gooey feeling you feel when you look at the one you love.  I thought love was the “I just can’t wait to talk to my love” feeling.  I thought love was he really loves me if he bothers to chastise me about the things I do because he doesn’t like them.  I thought it was love when he cheats on me and then always comes back to me because I was the person he preferred and loved so much.

So ladies and gentlemen what is love?

Please leave your comments or you can hit me up on my website a www.janicebrantle.com

If you want to join the conversation and express yourself on what is love and other topics plaguing relationships please join me at Java Monkey – Downtown Decatur (425 Church St. Decatur, GA 30030) November 10, 2012 6 pm.  See you there!!