Am I my Sister’s Keeper? – The Blog
Relationships, Relationships, Relationships (March, 2012)
A male friend and I were talking about the plight of African American male and female relationships. We commented on the fact that we’ve noticed an increase of white and African American relationships both African American men with white women and African American women with white men. So I asked myself are we finally becoming a colorless society that doesn’t see color or are we just plain fed up with each other; meaning African American men are fed up with African American women and African American women fed up with African American men?
In light of the Trayvon Martin case I would say racism is still alive in America. So the question comes back to African American male/female relationships. So I turn to my friend and ask “why do some African American men prefer white women? What would you say are the top 5 reasons? (Not that he’s an expert on the subject or anything but it’s good to get a base street version of what African American men really think). His top five reasons are as follows:
No. 5. African American women are out of shape/they don’t exercise
No. 4. African American women are angry
No. 3. African American women have attitudes
No. 2. African American women are gold diggers
No. 1. African American women are not submissive
Wow. I said. I didn’t know that African American men thought so little of their women. And then I got a little heated. I replied that I know plenty of sisters holding it down for themselves and their man and yes there may be a gold digger or two out there but from what I’ve seen white women have PHD’s in gold digging. Hence, they are the ones married to our most successful, well-paid men. I’m just saying… I have witnessed countless African American women struggling to raise kids alone, take care of the household, work two jobs; so tell me when do they have time to work out? And angry with attitude? Wouldn’t you be angry and have an attitude if the very men you birthed into this world only thinks of you as a fried chicken eating, lazy, gold digging bitch or a ho?
Come on Black people, we have to do better. What happened to the Black pride from the 60’s and 70’s? Brother’s let me let you in on a little secrete, there is nothing like the love of an African American women but the key is you have to get a real woman and treat that real woman right. If you do that, she will hold you down forever!
My new novel “The Forgotten, A Love Story” discusses issues with African American women and men as well as how we as African American women treat each other. Pick up a copy at www.janicebrantle.com. It will blow your mind.
Also please chime in on the blog topic this month:
- Ladies what are your top 5 reasons for dating outside your race?
- Fellas what are your top 5 reasons for dating outside of your race?
- How can we improve African American male/female relationships?
3 comments:
At the risk of being attacked myself, and not that I agree with this brothers' assessment, but you asked him for HIS top 5 reasons why African American men prefer white women. That hardly encompasses the feelings of African American men as a whole.
The fact that you picked this discussion and got mad at him for his answer concerns me. Maybe the first step to improving African American male/female relationships would be to listen to each other more, and go on the defensive less.....
Thank you JT for commenting. I can see what you are saying "Listening" is an awesome start but for me, not getting angry is like perpetuating the stereotype that African American women are gold diggers, fat, bitter etc. I feel we need to get angry. Not at each other but at the stereotypes so we as a people can get rid of them.
I problem is successful people or people (black people) who think they are successful and in demand go after their ideal of the perfect person when they seek a mate for whatever relationship they seek to enter into. Whether we admit it or not, maybe not INDIVIDUALLY but COLLECTIVELY, our epitome of excellence is white people's standard of beauty and fashion, intellect, economics, religion and culture. Until we regain an overall since of Black Pride we will see this trend continue.
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