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Love in Midst of the ATL Shuffle
How do you find love in the midst of the ATL? African American professional ladies in the ATL always ask the same question to each other. How do you find love in a city were your chances of even finding a man, a real one are very slim? Let’s see ladies, what are our choices? We have those fine, buffed, gorgeous men who are tailored, smell good and keep it tight, who are also openly gay. We have the fit trim athletic type man who goes for the Caucasian woman. We have the all together professional man who has it all together but who also only goes after career and money. We have the cute blue-collar man who we can’t relate too. The down low brother – need I say more. And finally we have the baller, entertainer/promoter who is only out for self.
So I ask again, how do you navigate this sea of sharks to find your one true love? What do you look for? What do you do? Do you become this professional love seeker and in every man you meet you size him up as a potential mate? Do you buy your wedding gown set a date and stalk ever man you meet? Or do you simply give up and say you will never find love?
Love is here. There are many couples in this city yes I do mean Atlanta that are happy and only into each other. So ladies, hang in there and don’t give up. Become the best you that you can be. Pursue your dreams and go for what makes you happy. Let love find you. When the right love finds you it will be worth it and it will be FABULOUS!
Ok Ladies and Gents Chime in:
1. What is your recipe to find love?
3 comments:
Love this article!!!
Allow me to be totally candid.
The buffed toned ones that you say are "openly gay". It is my experience that 90% of such black men are openly bisexual or just sexually open to experiences out side of biblical missionary position sex. (They also tend to like blow jobs...) Black people don't really do sexual identity the way white folks do, we just do sex. So don't write them off.
My tips would be:
1.) Lossen up sexually and in terms of the long list of red flags.
2.) Loosen up and learn to...give...orally in the way white women would. White women are often more open to varied sexual things. (Not to mention all those "for white people things" many black people refuse to do i.e. thrill sports).
3.)Loosen up your criteria for what a real man constitutes.
A good example of a black woman who probably does what I say would be Iman who is married to David Bowie. Bowie is bigendered but more male identified. He probably would not qualify under a old southern/midwestern idea of what a real man is. Yet he's been married to a black, muslim, super model for ever (by Hollywood standards).
Good article but I just had to point those things out.
(My evidence. My own experiences with men who were openly bi or who considered them selves straight, as well as my experiences with women.)
Hey Hontas,
I love your comments. We all have to be more open and as I mature I have become more open to other possibilities. But I must admit I'm not ready for the bi thing you know just an old Midwestern girl. Any way would like to collaborate with you on a story of your experiences
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