Am I my Sister’s Keeper? – The Blog
“Text Message? Seriously?!!!”
Ok I’m having a little issue with text messaging. I know it is the wave of the future and everybody and their Momma text instead of talking but damn are we loosing the art of talking to each other. The following text exchange really got my panties in a bunch:
Initial Text: Hey
Ok it came earlier in the day. I didn’t think much of it because I hadn’t heard from this guy in 5 or 6 months. So there was no rush getting back to him. I know what all you guys are thinking but a sister’s busy and if you don’t want to take the time to keep in touch you get placed low on the totem pole.
However, I’m not a total hard ass. I wanted to at least give him the courtesy of a response. I responded:
Text from me: Hello how are you?
Response text: Wow I text you yesterday
Text from me: I know it was a hectic day but I’m responding now. What’s up? (trying to keep my temper in check.)
Response text: I wanted to take you out yesterday but you didn’t respond.
Text from me: Surely you would have been a little more courteous and would give me a little more advanced notice for a date instead of expecting I would be available at the last minute.
Response text: I was just trying to be spontaneous
I looked at my phone and said spontaneous? I scratched my head because I didn’t understand that comment. You are spontaneous with your girlfriend, not someone you haven’t spoken too in 6 months. And, you had the nerve to text me. What about picking up the phone and saying hello, how have you been? Let’s get together? I can see if we were in our twenties. I can see a twenty-year-old boy asking a girl out like that but someone damn near 50!!! Give me a break.
Call me old fashioned. I want to be asked out properly. I don’t want a text message saying “Hey” That’s not an invitation. That’s someone who just wanted to say hello. I believe he got stood up and he was going through his phone to see who would bite and respond to him.
Ok all, it’s time for you to chime in:
1. Is the art of actually talking to one another dead?
2. Is it proper to ask someone out via text message or am I just too old fashioned?
3. Do real men ask real women out via text message?
2 comments:
So true. In fact I have read that some people consider it rude to just call.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/20/fashion/20Cultural.html
"Phone calls are rude. Intrusive. Awkward. “Thank you for noticing something that millions of people have failed to notice since the invention of the telephone until just now,” Judith Martin, a k a Miss Manners, said by way of opening our phone conversation. “I’ve been hammering away at this for decades. The telephone has a very rude propensity to interrupt people.”
Though the beast has been somewhat tamed by voice mail and caller ID, the phone caller still insists, Ms. Martin explained, “that we should drop whatever we’re doing and listen to me.”"
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Janice,
I am so glad you are bringing light to this topic. The are of communication is something that needs to be revived. Men have lost their minds with this thinking that texting is the appropriate way to talk to a woman or better yet ask her out. Shenanigans!! I find it disrespectful and inconsiderate. Call me old fashioned as well but we (ladies) have got to raise the bar with what we will & won't accept.
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