OK it is
2013. A new year! Some of you out there are saying thank the
lord it’s a new year and some of you out there are saying damn it’s a new year. Whatever category you fit in this is going to
be a super spectacular year! Yes I said it and I claim it. With the New Year comes a new blog! This blog is going to be different. It’s going to be more edgy, more in your
face. So if you have a weak stomach or
if you are ultra religious, then pass the blog along and don’t read it. Yes it’s going to have God and possibly a few
choice curse words in the same sentence.
We are going to explore the ends and outs, the down and dirty of what’s
happening in the African American community.
Some of you out there are going to hate me but oh well I’m sure you will
get over it. Just no hate mail
please. But feel free to voice your
honest opinion! So here goes….
I’ve started this conversation series that derived from my novel “The
Forgotten A Love Story” which was about love, lust, and stabbing your best
friend in the back. We had a lively conversation at one of my book signings
dealing from relationships with men, women’s friendships, as well as
sexuality. The first conversation asked
the question what is love. Now the bible
says that love is….. 4 Love is patient, love
is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not
self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the
truth. 7 It always protects, always
trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. So tell me is love patient kind, keeps no
record of wrong, never angers, always protects, always trust, always hopes,
always perseveres, never fails? If it
that is the case I believe I have been loving all wrong. My loves have always been hurtful, always
been vengeful, never patient and never kind. From the conversation we
discovered that today’s love lacks trust.
We in the African American community carry too much baggage to let go
and let new love in. In addition we are
either too selfish or too hurt to explore real love. So I ask again, what is
love? Is it what 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
tells us?
To
know someone is to love someone unconditionally. We as a community have to stop
hurting each other. We have to stop
blaming each other for our past failures with past lovers. We need to communicate with each other and
respect each other. Black men and black
women can we please stop and take a second look at what we have in front of us. Black men you have a good woman let her know
treat her like a queen. Black women stop
tearing your black king down. Build him
up let him know how much you appreciate him.
If we just do that, then maybe, just maybe we can preserve our black
community and become a cohesive group again.
